It’s been a busy year here at our Endurance clinic and we’re so pleased to introduce Kim Kruse, LCSW to our therapy team. Please check out her profile. She’ll be available to see new clients beginning January 2022. If you are interested in her services please contact us at 510-981-1471 to get on her waitlist. Thanks!
Another Mother Podcast: Running and relationships
I had a great time as a guest on Another Mother Podcast talking about navigating running-related relationship bumps. Listen to the podcast now!
A few notes that I want to add that I didn’t have a chance to cover on the podcast are:
What is a healthy relationship?
One where there is a solid friendship, mutual support, equal and shared decision making, love, trust, respect, understanding, kindness, giving your partner the benefit of the doubt, being able to resolve conflict in a positive way and compromising. Both parties are able to own their issues and baggage and not blame their partner for everything. Partners discuss and share childcare and chores in a way that feels best for both people. There is no perfection in relationships, but it is important to work on developing the above elements and repairing any damage or harm done to each other as part of resolving conflict.
Pre-Marital Counseling
I highly recommend pre-marital or relationship counseling for anyone who is committing to a long-term relationship. Marriage often comes with a lot of unspoken assumptions that can ruin a well-functioning relationship if not discussed. This is more of a threat for heterosexual couples who have had a lifetime of gender role socialization and relationship models that may not be the most effective for healthy relationships. Same-sex couples are less impacted by this because they usually have to figure out their relationships outside of these “traditional norms” and don’t face as much social pressure to fit into these societal norms. However, they are still impacted by growing up in families and communities that assign certain roles to the genders. All in all, couples should define their own relationships in ways that work for them and not fall into rigid or imbalanced ideas of what each person is supposed to do in the relationship or in the family. If each person feels loved, respected and equal then you have a healthy relationship.
Couples therapy
Therapy is a great tool to improve communication skills, self-awareness and relationships. Many times couples show up to therapy when things are at a very rocky stage or at the end of the road. It’s better to go earlier in a relationship and work on making sure you have the tools and skills to build the kind of relationship you want.
Reading Recommendation
Read: How to Make your Marriage Gayer to learn some great tips on creating relationships that are happier and less restrictive.
Dr. Cory Nyamora is a licensed psychologist, an endurance sports coach with certifications from USA Triathlon. He is the founder of Endurance – A Sports & Psychology Center, Inc. He provides running and triathlon coaching for beginner and experienced athletes, as well as psychological services to athletes, children, adults, and families. He provides trainings for organizations on topics related to the intersections of sports and mental health and overall wellness.
Create an Enlightened Relationship - A Couples Group Workshop
Unsatisfied with the current state of your relationship?
Are you stuck in the same cycle of arguments and lost connection?
Does every discussion with your partner end up following the same frustrating pattern?
We invite you to participate in four group meetings to learn about your relationship and break the drama cycleof unsatisfactory communication patterns with your partner.
Discover how to communicate better, forgive more easily and create a vision of what you want in a relationship.
Learn to cultivate a more conscious relationship through openness, honesty, and deliberation, and discover the secrets to long-term relationship success.
No one wants to be unhappy in their relationship. Practicing effective communication skills will resolve many conflicts and misunderstandings, while taking your relationship to a higher level.
What will you get out of attending this workshop?
Understand the science of love and drama cycles and how to stop them
Use communication strategies that actually work and create low-conflict, highly intimate conversations
Experience the power of forgiveness and learn effective strategies for letting go, being free, processing forgiveness, and making apologies
Understand how to stop unhealthy patterns and reprogram limiting beliefs
Know how to speak the language of love so that both you and your partner feel loved and supported
Have tools and insights to create long term happiness in your relationship
If you’re tired of drama, conflict, and disappointment and ready for real love and a deep, fulfilling relationship, we welcome you to join us on the journey of CREATING AN ENLIGHTENED RELATIONSHIP!
When: Saturday February 15th, 22nd, 29th and March 7th from 1 pm to 3 pm.
Where: Endurance Office – 759 Appian Way #2C, Pinole, CA. 94564
Facilitator: Olina Rule, LMFT – Olina is Licensed therapist who specializes in Couples Therapy with advanced training from The Couples Therapy Institute, Gottman Couples therapy training and Divorce Mediation. You can read more at https://www.endurancecenter.org/olina-rule-lmft
Registration: Email endurancesportspsychology@gmail.com for more details and to sign up. We limit the number of couples so please contact us know to reserve your spot.